Your gamer friends vs. the rest

How some people see my gamer friends

How some people see my gamer friends

I will never complain about having friends. Really, I like the luxury of having a bunch of people I can call up whenever I want to, to do whatever we like to. I like that their interests, hobbies, hopes and dreams overlap with mine, and that they can stand me even on my worst days. The thing I don’t like about friends is that, sooner or later, you’ll have to sort them into different “circles” because some just don’t play well with each other. I’m not talking about friends that hate each other for some reason. What I’m talking about are friends from one side of your life who just don’t get the friends from the other side. The one side is in this case your “regular” social side (school, college, work), while the other side, your “true” side, is the geeky, nerdy, gaming side. While some of these friends will overlap, a large part will not, leaving you to divide your precious free time between the two camps.

But what can you do about it? We are all many-faceted personalities, and our choice of friends reflect that. I just need people who I can talk to about a rough day in the office, but I also need someone to geek out with when a new trailer for Days of Futures Past hits the net. I need people to get drunk with in the city, but I also need fellows to binge-game an entire weekend, living on nothing but pizza and the fading health of my body. I need diversity when it comes to my friends, so I will have to live with splitting my time between them.

It’s one of those social challenges we all have, but that are actually not problems at all. Some people just don’t get along well, but they all get along with you. Ain’t that just what counts?

So, readers, how do you cope with your gaming friends versus the rest of your social connections? Do you hop around between different circles, or do you drink your Friday pints with the same people you raid with twice a week? Let me know in the comments!

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3 comments

  1. Friends split into two groups.
    The first, very small, group is friends who are friends because of who they are and who you are. Close friends, true friends, best friends, whatever label you like. You’ll be lucky to have two or three of those.
    The other group, much larger, is friends for a reason. Work friends, school friends, sport friends, hobby friends, neighbors, drinkers in your local… you can have as many as you have areas of interest.
    If you can put a qualifier on the friendship then you already know you are setting up barriers. On the other hand, if you don’t need a qualifier you are already excluding all the qualified from the core. Which is absolutely fine. Sometimes, often even, you want the specific not the general. You want to see a movie with your movie friends who understand movies, not your best friend, who understands you better than anyone but can’t tell Stanley Kubrick from Michael Bay, but when you get a bad diagnosis…

  2. Friends split into two groups.
    The first, very small, group is friends who are friends because of who they are and who you are. Close friends, true friends, best friends, whatever label you like. You’ll be lucky to have two or three of those.
    The other group, much larger, is friends for a reason. Work friends, school friends, sport friends, hobby friends, neighbors, drinkers in your local… you can have as many as you have areas of interest.
    If you can put a qualifier on the friendship then you already know you are setting up barriers. On the other hand, if you don’t need a qualifier you are already excluding all the qualified from the core. Which is absolutely fine. Sometimes, often even, you want the specific not the general. You want to see a movie with your movie friends who understand movies, not your best friend, who understands you better than anyone but can’t tell Stanley Kubrick from Michael Bay, but when you get a bad diagnosis…

  3. True friends you introduce to each other. Situational friends you enjoy their time in specific circumstances. It is ok to have both =)

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